DescriptionEvery couple has arguments, but what happens when recurring battles
begin to feel like full-scale war? Do you retreat in hurt and angry
silence, hoping that a spouse who "just doesn't get it" will eventually
see things your way? Spend the time between skirmishes gathering
evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes -- or else?
Whether due to innate personality traits or emotional vulnerabilities,
there are some aspects of our behavior that are difficult to alter. But
these differences do not have to get in the way of healthy, happy, and
long-lasting romance. This practical guide offers new solutions for
couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change.
Aided by thought- provoking exercises and lots of real-life examples,
readers will learn why they keep having the same fights again and
again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems;
and how true acceptance can restore health to their relationships.
Reviews
"Finally,
a tested and therapeutic technique to help couples help themselves. It
is straightforward, fair to both men and women, and each chapter is
practical and wise. This is a book that couples can use together. It is
easy to follow and not overwhelming. Most of all, this book will help
couples in crisis to see each other's humanity and to find a way to
understanding and acceptance and yes, change."--Pepper Schwartz, PhD,
author of
Love Between Equals"This book speaks
directly to the heart. Couples in conflict will recognize themselves in
these pages and this reflection will gain their trust. The authors have
written this book sensitively, with great clinical wisdom. Readers will
learn how to heal their relationships and create the intimacy they
want." --John Gottman, PhD, University of Washington, author of
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work"This
well-researched and well-written book is exactly what quarreling
couples need to extricate themselves from tangles of blame and
accusation. It is not just a pep talk, but a practical, hands-on guide
for all couples with conflicts--which is to say, all couples." --Carol
Tavris, PhD, author of
Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion"This
is an insightful and inspiring analysis of the kinds of conflicts
couples experience, and how they may change and experience greater
intimacy. Eschewing easy answers and simple-minded solutions, the book
tackles the complexities of intimate conflict in ways that clarify the
contradictions and ironies that lovers confront. Based on their
groundbreaking approach to couple therapy and their extensive research
on marriage, Christensen and Jacobson offer couples sophisticated and
powerful tools for reconciling their differences." --Elizabeth Loftus,
PhD, Department of Psychology, University of Washington, President,
American Psychological Society
"One virtue of the book is its
utter realism....Offers a slew of tools that couples can use to
reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist." --Jane
Brody,
New York Times"Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense." --Polly Drew,
Milwaukee Journal SentinelProduct Details
- Paperback: 333 pages
- Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (May 31, 2002)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1572305096
- ISBN-13: 978-1572305090
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Product Dimensions:
8.4 x 5.5 x 1 inches
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