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Author:	Anne Cassidy	Publisher:	Dell Island Books
ISBN-10:	0440508126	Subject:	Family & Relationships
ISBN-13:	9780440508120	Topic:	--
Format:	Paperback	Language:	--
Publication Year:	1998	Condition:	Good
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A parenting specialist advises that parents in the late 1990s may be relying too much on the advice of "experts" and research, and she counsels parents to return to a state of self-confidence and trust in their own instincts.
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Length:	355 pages
Height:	8.3 in.
Width:	5.3 in.
Thickness:	1.0 in.
Weight:	11.2 oz.

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Cassidy challenges parents to relinquish their dependency on "experts" and provides them with the tools to regain confidence in their own instincts. With the baby boom generation came the genre of parenting books that told parents how to teach their kids everything from toilet training to developing self-esteem. Generally the message has been: go easy on your child, but hard on yourself. It is starting to become apparent, especially in the best of families, that giving your kids lots of choices, validating their feelings at great peril to your own and providing "enough" individual attention for each child is creating a generation of kids over whom we have no control.Cassidy argues that this comes from over-thinking our role as parents. Weve pondered every step so much that the juice, the joy, and worst of all, our confidence is gone. The reasons are clear: We have fewer children later in life so weve had more time to ponder. Weve grown up just as research on infant and child development has come of age, so theres no shortage of material to think about. As a generation weve prided ourselves on self-improvement and we bring the same zeal to child improvement. Were less likely to live close to our families, and so are more likely to seek out expert solutions.To counter this thinking, Cassidy will suggest keeping the big picture in mind--what kind of people do you really want your kids to be? Honest, kind, cooperative, empathetic? It may mean losing sight of whether enough play dates are scheduled for the week and if you've positively reinforced the latest creative endeavor, but it will bring back your instincts about what is important to your family as a whole, and to your kids to become decent people.
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The irony of a nearly 300-page parenting book arguing against the reading of parenting books is inescapable. Yet the call for a return to "off book parenting," is likely to strike a just-right chord for many moms and dads who suspect they might have abdicated their own authority in their search for expert advice. "For decades," notes Cassidy, a mother of three who writes on parenting issues, "bringing up kids has been evolving from something instinctive, personal and private to something studied, impersonal and commercial," as today's parents, cut adrift from extended families and isolated at the office, have lost confidence in themselves and lost touch with their children and turn to books and seminars for pat solutions to childhood's complex problems. Cassidy calls for "authoritative" parents whose goal is to be "firm but warm, demanding but responsive," and pleads the case for kids being allowed to inhabit their own childhoods rather than being made into over-scheduled little adults. While sometimes cranky and repetitive, Cassidy's stance, more explicative than prescriptive, is bracingly persuasive. (June) Lopate

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Parents Who Think Too Much: Why We Do It, How To Stop

Ann Cassidy

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Binding:	Paperback
Book Condition:	Good
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ISBN:	0440508126
Publication Date:	1998-07-01
Publisher:	Dell

Pages:	350
Height:	1.1000 inches
Width:	5.2000 inches
Weight:	0.5000 pounds

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